Eph 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the hurt is never going to hurt ever again. Forgiveness means that you no longer hold the person who hurt you responsible for further repentance. Once you forgive someone, you don’t just forget what happened, but you have to make a conscious effort from that moment on to turn to God for soothing. You will think about the hurt again and it will still hurt, but in those moments you choose to turn to God rather than striking out at the same person over and over again. God will help you let go of the pain, eventually. It may take a long time and be a battle many, many times letting go of that hurt, but as long as you express your anger and pain to Him rather than the person who offended you, you are still making progress towards healing.
Matthew 6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
God requires us to forgive. He doesn’t say it is an option if you feel like it. No, he says we need to forgive one another so that He can forgive us. Nothing that will ever happen to us here can compare with what Jesus went through for us when He died on the cross and yet He still forgave those who put Him on that cross. We should be able to do the same to those who offend us.
God does not require us to forget. If we completely forgot the hurt, then what would we have learned from it? You can’t go to school, come home and forget everything you learned that day, and say that you have made any progress. When something happens that requires our forgiveness, we can learn from that, remember the event without requiring further repentance from someone, and grow in our faith with Him.
Silver lining: I learned more about forgiveness last night at the women’s meeting…thanks for inviting me!